What’s up? Here we are back once again and it feels fine I tell ya that. I’m blown away by the support you all give so big thanks.

But let’s not get it twisted, you’re here because you want some advice; I don’t blame you, life is a tough thing at times. So, it’s wise to get guidance whenever you can.

Based off the title it might be hard to decipher what the topic for this week is going to be. Don’t stress, let me get that out of the way. It is about the realisation that many of our problems that we face are overblown to a comical degree.

Don’t get me wrong, I’m not trivialising anyone’s experience and I’m not saying that there aren’t circumstances that might put someone in danger. But for the most part, even when the worst case scenario occurs, it actually isn’t that scary. So, the title is meant to represent that someone has come to terms with the issues or consequences facing them and says resolutely “I’m still here!!!”. Imagine shouting that victory cry at the top of a mountain, that’s the scale I’m going for here.

What’s going on when people almost get that fight or flight response to life’s challenges. Well, it’s just that, their body and mind has isolated a threat to its existence and that in turn triggers the response. The person’s stress level will rise which will cause a whole number of different problems in all aspects of their lives, which is not good.

Now, a method I use to get rid of that horrible fight or flight response is to repeat the phrase, “Without the mind there is nothing to worry about”. What this does is make conscious the fact that life’s worries are usually a product of your mind’s worrying and catastrophising. When you abruptly switch the mind’s focus using this phrase you will find that your problems don’t have as much of an emotional hold on you.

You’ve shaken the emotional baggage off. Next is to weigh the issue or problem in a balance light. We do this by asking ourselves after saying the previous phrase, “Will this really matter in five years”. A problem people have is that they don’t think to the future that much unless it is about their own death. The reality is, most issues or problems you are facing right now will have no bearing or impact on you five years from now. So, why stress yourself to death over something you will probably forget about in a couple years? Seems silly to me.

I recently went through an experience where I had to use those phrases a lot to get through it. But in the end I can out the other end and I can triumphantly say “I’m still here!!!”

Like always, thanks to all my Hedites who make this whole thing so much fun.

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