I always for some reason get excited to write these posts, no matter what’s going on I can always manage to create the enthusiasm needed to get something out. Yay, so we’re back at it again.

Walking away, when is it the right time to cut someone out of your life? And how best to do it? I know that can seem harsh to say it like that but the reality of life is; you need to seek out high value people to be around, you also need to know when to cut some people loose.

Humans are pack animals, we in many respects need to have people with which we can connect. That being said, I’m also a big believer in the idea that you are the average of the five people you spend the most time with. Or at least your values, habits and thoughts will be an aggregate of those five people. Now, don’t get me wrong you can still be influenced by others outside of that list but those will have the biggest single impact.

If their lives are on a downward trajectory, it is only a matter of time before it starts to affect you. Just because someone is in a bad mood or is in a bit of a rough patch, doesn’t mean they are deserving of the cold shoulder, but if over an extended period of time their behaviour gets worse and worse, it might be worth considering.

When is the right time, or what is a potential signal that may help you judge whether it is the right thing to do? Well, it’s pretty simple actually. If your phone starts buzzing and you see the name of the person calling or messaging, and your natural response is a cold shiver down your spine and your face contorts and the only sound you can make is “Urggghhhh”. That is a telltale sign that that person needs to go from your life.

Like I said, it does need to happen regularly over a period of time; because you could be mad at someone for something they did, then they call you and you don’t want anything to do with them. But by the next day, everything smooths over and you have no issue interacting with that person.

If it does keep happening though, that means it’s go time. But how do we get rid of them. That’s easy, we just stop picking up the phone or responding to their messages. It will take awhile because they have been used to getting your attention but after a consistent campaign by you to not engage. They will eventually stop trying and the end goal will be achieved; you still might bump into them from time to time but the distance that will have built between you and them will shelter you from any notion that you should reconnect.

Now look, you’re not a bad person for doing that, never feel that way. To a certain extent those people will implicitly understand in a subconscious way what is going on. You can’t save everyone and sometimes it’s difficult to save yourself, so being dragged down by them isn’t healthy for you or them. Just let it go.

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