Writing to you once again, it’s good to be back to what I do.

This week’s focus is going to be on something that is currently going on in my life. Well, it’s not entirely about me but I am still a part of it. So, today my brother got married at Whale beach in Sydney, where I performed the role of best man.

There isn’t much that the best man has to do which was lucky for me seeing as how this was the first time that I took on such a responsibility. However, one of the tasks that is required was for me to make a speech at the wedding reception.

I’d say that this was the hardest part for me, not because of the public speaking aspect but due to matter of what to say. The challenge was, I hadn’t been in a relationship before, so it was difficult for me to relate to what the experience of marriage would be like.

For me, much of the past few years have been very much focused on developing myself. And looking back, I have no regrets at all about that, so don’t think I’m lamenting my decisions. I needed to pull myself together before I could even remotely handle the complexities of navigating a relationship.

But I guess what the exercise of writing the speech for my brother’s wedding helped me to see. Was that I needed to come to terms with the fact that life isn’t a one-man show. I have felt in the past that I already understood that principle and in some ways I had. But what I hadn’t acknowledged was that, although friends and colleagues are people you should take along with you as you succeed in life.

It is important to realise that they have their own lives and in many respects won’t be available to always offer you the time and guidance that you would like. This to me is where the idea of being in a paired bond with a partner comes in. That person is the springboard from which your best ideas can launch off from, as well as being the safety mat when things don’t always go your way. This to me is what is so special about relationships, someone is your corner.

Now, this I am operating under the assumption that it is a healthy relationship and not a toxic one, because in the case of the latter, the relationship can hurt you. But going back to what I was saying. For many people, they think that no one is truly in their corner supporting them. Creating a life together with someone is a project that will outlast both of you, and that legacy that follows I think is one of life’s most sublime achievements.

I guess the point of all this is to say, that I strongly believe in marriage, I’d say I’ve always thought that way. But I now have a better understanding as to why I think that. I hope when the time comes, I’ll be ready to take on that challenge.

Hedites one and all, thanks for putting up with the weird upload schedule. It has been a strange time recently for me, but things are getting back to normal.