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Okay, so this one’s a short one because it is pretty self explanatory but none the less it is still very effective.
And as the old saying goes. It doesn’t matter if it’s a simple trick, as long as it’s an effective trick.
This is about getting you to do the things you need to do but keep putting off. Now I can’t remember everything that I’ve said, so who knows, maybe I’ve already told you about this one before. But the technique goes a little like this, if there is a task you have to complete, like doing the washing up or something along those lines, ask yourself “can it be done in 2 minutes?”, the 2 minutes is an arbitrary choice, you can chose 5 or 10 instead, up to you.
The point of this is to get you to recognise the things that you have to do but don’t want to do, really don’t cost you as much as you think. You might think, well that’s all good and well for basic household chores and stuff along those lines, but I have university assignment or a business proposal to write, this won’t work for that. And guess what, you’re dead wrong; the issue there, is you are only looking at the finished product as the task. Reality is, those bigger projects are just a series of interconnected smaller tasks.
So, in those cases, break it down; for both examples the first small task could be to turn on your laptop and open up a Word document. And I’d argue you could do that in two minutes. From there, just continue breaking things down until the thing is done.
My Hedities, if you are getting something out of this content, share it with two people. Bring them on the journey to a better life.
Posted on September 24, 2021 by Jordan Hedi Productions
I feel that political and more in general, social discourse has gotten to the point where it is so toxic that no one can have a proper conversation anymore. I notice it with the whole climate change issue among many other matters.
Now I know people can and should have different points of view, humanity is not a monolith, and thank god for that. But these differing perspectives can create divides in society when in reality we are all in this together and should be looking for constructive ways to reach a compromise. I also acknowledge, taking the climate change issue as an example, that facts and realities do exist. Like if someone challenges the existence of gravity. I guess they can just go outside and drop an apple from a tree or something and try to explain what’s going on.
What I think discourse needs nowadays is a little bit of charity, I feel that the reason why so many people hold onto ridiculous and irrational viewpoints is that they feel no one is willing to trust them in the first place. So, what I’m suggesting is that you give people the benefit of the doubt in your conversations or arguments about ideas and issues, not saying you have to agree with them at the end of it all. But try to listen to them as well as you can hear them, it will go a long way into making them feel like you have actually acknowledged them and their ideas without prejudice.
You might argue that, why should I be charitable in the situation when they more than likely won’t be? And the thing is, you will need to be the one who takes the initiative to start the cycle, but the longer the cycle spins the greater the chance they will reciprocate. Also think about it, people within society have been conditioned to behave in a highly confrontational manner, one that doubts everything the other side says; so can you really expect the other person you are talking to, to act any other way? I mean maybe they can, but that would already make them reasonable, so it’s not like you would have been having too many unresolvable issues to start with.
The reason why I like this mentality is that it takes away a lot of the stress of the, “I’m right, their wrong” angle that tilts so many issues. And in turn you will be more able to detach yourself emotionally from issues and see things from a wider perspective, even if some of those perspectives are skewed or biased, in that case you will know more about why people believe what they do, and then how to counter that.
It’s just a thought.
Make me proud my Hedites, (you already do!!!)
Posted on September 17, 2021 by Jordan Hedi Productions
Okay so it’s almost about that time again when I release my next piece, so for September the piece is called “Coastal Field Day”. This work was one of the first few stories I started writing this year, it might actually be the first. I based it off a trip I took to Bryon Bay which is in northern New South Wales, a couple years back.
A bunch of my friends stayed there to celebrate a friend’s birthday, it was a really fun time and I should probably go on a similar trip at some point in the future. Ideally when COVID settles down. But the story itself is about jealousy and miscommunication in a relationship. I won’t say much more but it sure was fun to write. Give it a shot and tell me what you think.
Oh by the way I released a free story on my blog as well this month. That one is a lot shorter but I’m still very proud of it.
Like always, more to come my Hedites.
Posted on September 13, 2021 by Jordan Hedi Productions
This piece was something I wrote for a writing competition where the focus was, to write about a connection to nature from the contemporary perspective. I decided to write a story using my experience from a camping trip at Lake Lyell near Lithgow. So tell me what you think and I hope you enjoy it.
The soft sunlight breached the fabric of the overhanging camp gazebo, it slapped my skin from half way up my calf right down to the tips of my toes. The clouds must have finally parted I thought to myself, what good fortune. Without looking I could sense the solar energy seeping in through my pores; it wasn’t long before I developed the motivation to step up and out of my comfy camping chair and out into the emerging luminance.
Departing from the campsite chatter, the sunshine ran up my legs and splashed my face. Away from the conversation, which was interesting but could never feel this blissful, I could now hear the hum of a motor in the distance.
I shaded my eyes from the saturating sun to glimpse the sight of the sound. And there it was, out across the waters of Lake Lyell. A dinghy speeding along with three people manning the vessel. Watching from afar, I saw the boat cut sharp turns with ease, leaving waves and bubbling foam in its wake. The waves subsided and the foam dissolved but the boat carried on.
I needed to get a better look, even if only slightly. Like any prodigal son I left the safety and comfort of the campsite; instead, choosing to bravely rough it through the thick long grass which separated the bluff where the campsite was and the beach. Wading through the grass, the seemingly infinite number of blades brushed against my skin causing an itching sensation, but I didn’t mind.
Once the coarse sand found its way in between my toes I gravitated closer and closer to the water. It wasn’t more than 10 metres from the grass but it felt like I was trekking across the Sahara because time seemed to slow down. I completely tunnel visioned on the boat, its motions and the occupants aboard.
The way it seemed to gracefully cut through the water was mesmerising to watch. When the throttle was maxed, the motor roared and the mouth of the boat rose above the water. Gliding along as such, its manoeuvrability wasn’t hampered in the slightest, I mean I’m no expert but if anything I felt it improved.
Barney, the one steering, had his wildly long, blonde hair flapping about in the wind, truly a spectacle to behold. At the front was ‘Cutty’ who was still grinning after his turn at captaining the ship. Between the two was Felix, puffing away on his trusty vape. They were odd balls, no doubt… but every good mate inspected up close is a bit strange, aren’t they?
They were all smiles, and that sense of joy infected me too as I found myself smiling. But then, the icy chill of the water gripping my ankle alerted me to where I was standing; the foot of the shore. I looked up and this time was arrested by the sight of what I saw.
All along the perimeter of the lake: left, right and on the other side, stood these colossal trees. One by itself wouldn’t have been that commanding, but looking at how the leaves and branches meshed together to create a lush green tapestry, was something else. Best of all, was the fluid nature of its composition, almost mimicking the water as it constantly shifted in rhythm with the breeze.
My attention then gravitated towards the other marvels around me. The sky, the emerald gloss of the water as well as the singing birds; everything gushed with an interconnected energy. I can retell this to you with great accuracy but at the time not a single thought lingered in my mind; no I was instead lost in the oneness of my environment.
Turning back around to greedily steal another glimpse of nature’s gems, I saw for the first time the giant tree which hovered over the campsite. That’s when thought remerged in my mind, “How could I have missed that?”. Simple, I never bothered to look up.
Suburban life has done that to us all, we become so accustomed to local parks that have been designed down to the last detail. Or other modern trappings that in the process we lose what is so special about nature. It’s majestic simplicity.
Behind me, the dinghy’s motor became louder and louder before cutting out abruptly, what broke the following silence was Barney’s voice. “Hey it’s your turn to take her for a spin”.
Looking back over my shoulder I thought, “It’s time for the Beach Master to become the Wave rider”.
Posted on September 13, 2021 by Jordan Hedi Productions
Rejection, are you scared of it? Don’t feel too bad, most people are. But that doesn’t mean that it has to be that way, we can change the effect rejection has on us. It’s worth stating now, but it does take conscious effort to do though.
I think the best way to go about this today is to use a bit of my own experience from the past. We will have to go back to mid 2018, seems like a lifetime ago. So, to set the scene, I had just been accepted for the role as a Workflow Analyst for one of Australia’s biggest debt collectors; don’t look at me like that, I had just finished university and needed something. Now, I can’t really tell you what a Workflow Analyst is, still to this day I have no clue. I think it might be one of those vacuous titles that companies create when they have shit work that they want done but don’t want to scare potential unassuming job applicants.
Fast forward six months in that role and I was kind of in the mood to rotate out of the business and into something a lot less, hmmm unethical; I’m not joking, one of the tag-lines for the company was “providing a pathway to financial inclusion” and I didn’t see much of that going on. But the problem I was in, was as such, I was a recent graduate with six months of professional experience, not an easy sell as a new hire for a different company. However, I was determined to leave and I wasn’t going to quit and become unemployed, that would have made it harder. Oddly enough, it’s easier to find a new job if you are currently working as opposed to being unemployed, and it gets worse the longer you are unemployed. What a double whammy.
So, the mission I set myself was to work my job in the day, and then spend my afternoon and evenings applying for jobs online. This started an eleven month routine of applying to countless job ads, being assigned online aptitude test, potentially progressing to first round interviews and then maybe a shot at a final interview. At the height, I was probably doing anywhere from two to three interviews a week, it cost me my lunch break and sometimes I had to lie to my work about my whereabouts, just to keep things undercover. Luckily, after those eleven months I managed to secure a better job, this time working as a fraud analyst. I’ll say that I will at some point make a video about interviews and how to ace them but that won’t be for a little while as I already have a lot of videos lined up.
The point I wanted to get across was that what I did wasn’t easy and it required a sustained effort over time to get the outcome I wanted. So, we can now cover the managing of rejection. I got knocked back maybe hundreds of times, either by phone or by email. But how did I keep going? Two reasons.
Firstly, I would get excited after every rejection. I know that might sound strange but the fact is I was putting myself out there when in most cases, people would just keep their head down. That is something to be proud of, it takes guts to suspend your human instincts of avoiding rejection and negativity. But some times life is shit and the only person capable of changing that is you, and that current job was shit and worth the hassle to leave.
The second reason was that I gave myself a strong motivating purpose. I wanted to leave because I didn’t like the ethical practices going on and I wanted to be doing something less morally compromised. So, I applied for everything but it was almost like the universe read my mind, and gave me a job as an analyst trying to uncover financial defrauding of customers. But that big WHY went a long way in giving me the mental strength and will to carry on despite the constant knock backs.
Now my Hedites, this is only one example, but the general teachings can be applied in your lives, I’m sure of it. Realise when someone rejects you, not matter who they are, you aren’t going to be kicked out of the tribe and starve to death. We don’t live in jungle anymore… well a concrete jungle maybe. But you see my point.
Keep doing ya thang.
Posted on September 10, 2021 by Jordan Hedi Productions
So this weeks’ post might seem like a bit of worn out information but I think it is something to reflect on regularly as it does contain truth.
Us human beings are result and goal oriented creatures who love to be rewarded when we accomplish a task. At least I know I do, maybe you feel the same. But it isn’t unusual to demonise ourselves when we falter and slip up for a moment. I don’t know why exactly, maybe we feel ashamed of ourselves or feel like we have let everyone else down.
These feelings don’t sit well with us and worst of all, can cause a response of inaction to present or future matters. I want with this post to remind myself and you that we are all human beings are none of us perfect. But despite that, we can still do incredible things, even if we go through bouts of self doubt or regret.
Something like this happened to me yesterday, I didn’t do any of my mindfulness or consciousness exercises, although I did meditate which was a small victory in of itself considering the circumstances. But I did get the nagging feeling like I didn’t do what I should have done and that made me feel bad. But writing to you now, I don’t feel the same way anymore, instead I appreciate the fact that I didn’t do all that I could have yesterday but that doesn’t stop me from getting it done today. I want you to read the next line below a couple of times until it sinks into your memory, or maybe put it into your quote book.
Don’t let yesterday’s failings rob the lustre of today.
Remember there are enough external judges out there in the world who will cast scathing sentences down on you, but don’t let your own mind be a persecutor against yourself; the reason why is, those external judges only have limited enough to base their decision, however you have the all information about yourself, so you can lay down the most brutal of judgements.
We all slip, we all fall, deciding to get up, is what moves mountains.
My Hedites, do not despair, keep on fighting the fight of your life, the tides will turn.
Posted on September 3, 2021 by Jordan Hedi Productions
Yo what’s up, I know, I know… What the hell am I going to rabble on about this week, well I want to talk about the pandemic and the lockdowns that come with it.
So, I live in Sydney Australia and currently we are about 10 weeks into a statewide lockdown due to the Delta strain running wild. Now I’m not gonna bore you with all the details, because I am sure you can guess how it came about. But what I do want to talk about is what this pandemic can actually offer you.
Depending on where you live you might be in a lockdown too or at least facing some sort of restrictions on your movement, and I want you to think about how you use your time. Man, I ask that of you a lot in these posts don’t I? But dang, it’s a sure fire way to improve your life, being aware. Go figure.
This pandemic has cost people their job and added a hella amount of stress and worry but what I have realised being locked down for the first time (My state has avoided much of the COVID drama due to the fact that Australia is an island at the bottom of the globe, talk about luck of the draw), is that dang, it opens up so much extra time in my life.
Now I know people might say, “well you don’t have kids so you don’t have to manage those terrors at home” and that is true, but you being locked down or not doesn’t change the fact that if you have kids you have to manage major parts of their lives regardless. But now at least you aren’t having to waste your time in traffic, or in pointless meetings; well you probably still have to do pointless zoom meetings, but as least you can put yourself on mute and turn the camera off so that you can do things around the house at the same time. Put the dead air time of the day into good use.
Go forth and use the power of pandemic time to pick up a new skill, habit or talent. The one I chose was a new technique for my mindfulness routine in relation to managing my emotions and feelings (I will post a video in a couple weeks about it because I really like it and want to share it with you). I don’t know what your activity will be, only you can answer that (if you’re really struggling go back through my posts and find something to pick up), but make the most of this strange time to give yourself a gift which you will treasure post-pandemic. You deserve it.
You are all wonderful people, my Hedites.
Posted on August 27, 2021 by Jordan Hedi Productions
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