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How’s it all going? I hope you are doing well this week, what we will cover today is a quote from my quote book.
Like always, let’s cut to the chase:
“You think effectiveness with people and efficiency with things” – Stephen Covey
This teaches us an important lesson not just in business but in every aspect of our lives. Throughout my own experience, and maybe it has been similar for you, I have seen how much of life is framed through the perspective of efficiency. Be it how fast we can run a mile or how quickly a food delivery can be made. Either through apps, our phones or just the clock in our heads, we are constantly up against the clock.
Now in some cases this is okay, when things don’t involve people, then sure it is okay. For instance, measuring the time it takes for a file to be downloaded onto a computer. However, when what we are talking about involves people, this efficiency stopwatch kind of perspective puts unnecessary stress and anxiety into the situation.
What Covey offers to us in this quote, is for us not look at people as processes to be managed, but as human beings with unique and sometimes unmeasurable qualities. This is why with people we need to take the view of effectiveness instead. Effectiveness is about building people up by acknowledging where their skillset and experience lies, and then developing them from there. This approach appears to me to be the best because it removes the tension so commonly created in our work environment. While also encouraging the other person to be motivated to exceed their own limits.
Managing becomes less about trying to raise or lower some metric and rather becomes about building an effective team whose members manage themselves. Your role from there is to provide support and coaching to help the team further. The end result I believe and have seen is that when effectiveness with people is valued and implemented, the efficiency in processes and things naturally just follows.
Thanks again for coming down and sharing your thoughts. You are all wonderful people.
Posted on November 18, 2022 by Jordan Hedi Productions
Welcome back to the place where I dump my ramblings about self-development onto the internet. This time we are going to cover a quote from my quote book.
I want to jump right into it and just give you the quote straight away:
Man’s mind stretched to a new idea, never goes back to its original dimensions
Oliver Wendell Holmes
Shit…now that I look at it, there almost doesn’t seem to be a need to break it down. It’s so straight forward but powerful. Well, I’ve got you held captive and it’s unlikely by this point that you can be bothered to switch to a different tab.
So, what does this mean to me. Even though he is talking about someone’s mind in the quote, I feel as if it can be related back to any form of growth. I very much believe when we grow as people, it changes the makeup of who we are as a person. Old beliefs and habits are discarded and newer ones take their place, in a never ending cycle of renewal but also rebirth.
That’s what I find so engaging about self-development as an interest, you essentially get to design yourself anyway you like, as long as you have the vision for it. Let’s bring it back to the mind now. Epiphanies, that’s what I think stretches the mind. Having one changes everything, it becomes a paradigm shift that morphs how we see the world and our place in it. That’s why we can’t go back to what we were before, the mold of your mind has been contorted.
Now, these epiphanies can occur naturally over time, but that would be leaving things up to chance. No, instead we want to encourage these things to happen as frequently as possible. However, I will state that you can only handle a certain amount of them over so many months. Since the mind has to incorporate drastic change, bit by bit. You might be wondering what that limit is, it’s hard to say as it varies from person to person. But from my experience, the mind won’t offer up these kind of epiphanies without you being ready for them, so it kind of balances itself.
How do we encourage them though? Easy, and it’s the thing you should already be doing on a daily basis. Reading, especially non-fiction. That act alone will jump start the process, and after a while you’ll become a fiend for those moments of enlightenment. A recent one for me happened after reading a book called “Manufacturing Consent” by Noam Chomsky. That one hollowed out any respect I had for the mainstream media. Dare to read it, only if you’ve got what it takes.
So yeah, that’s really it. Other moments and experiences can trigger them too, but reading is the quick fire way to get it off the ground.
Thank you to all the Hedites out there, enjoying and sharing their thoughts on my posts. Much love. Also, my Masters coursework is all done, so I think post scheduling will be back to normal.
Till next time…
Posted on November 11, 2022 by Jordan Hedi Productions
What up, I’ve come across something that I thought was very interesting and want to share it with you. It’s an idea that comes from a thing known as Real Social Dynamics (RSD).
I must admit that I haven’t looked too much into Real Social Dynamics stuff. But one part of it that I came across which I believe to be true, is that we are the ones that decide how others will behave around us.
Apparently this is one of key points of RSD, it states that people will greatly infer how to interact with you based on the signals you send out. I could have probably done a better job explaining it but I think an example is most likely the best way to get it. So, think back maybe to a time in your life or just imagine a social gathering like a party of some sort.
Now, have you ever seen someone like this before? They will be standing off to the side by themselves, away from most other people; they have this vacant expression on their face; occasionally they will look in one direction then turn towards another before looking down at their feet, never actually daring to look someone in the eyes, even if at a distance.
You probably have someone just like that before, if not, probably something close to it. Now, that begs the question; after seeing that person, would you want to go talk to them? The answer I can state with 99.99% accuracy is no. But why is that? Well, they have subconsciously told everything not to go talk them, that’s why.
You could take each single descriptor I used in my example and say that that alone isn’t enough, and I would tend to agree. But nothing in this universe operates in isolation. In that scenario, it is the combination of factors which makes that person unappealing to interact with.
If looking unappealing to talk to because you look sad and lonely is what you’re going for, then sure thing, go for it. But I don’t think most people want to be perceived that way.
One could argue that some people are more extroverted and others introverted and that changes people’s tendencies. Once again I agree with that too, in fact I would say that I am more on the introverted side myself. However, that doesn’t give me any excuse, to expect people to want to interact with me when I’m coming in with vibes like that, that’s crazy.
Wow, I just realised that I started to go too in depth with that one example. Well, at least you get the message now. What I’m trying to say is that in every social environment, whether that be amongst friends, family, co-workers or anyone else. You can take the initiative to either set boundaries or opt to open up those boundaries. It just depends on how you carry yourself on the way in to the interaction.
Don’t get me wrong, this is an incredibly basic run down. I will be looking into stuff some more and then I’ll come and report my findings to all of you.
Until next time my Hedites.
Posted on October 29, 2022 by Jordan Hedi Productions
So what’s on the agenda for this week, well I thought it would be good to cover a topic that all of us can work on.
Everyone in life has that inner voice in their head, sometimes it can be encouraging and at other times it can be very judgemental. It can seem as if our minds are made up of two people’s thoughts. This self-talk is something that we must learn to use to our advantage.
The aim of this post is to get you to recognise the clear distinction between the two voices, know why they are there and what to do about them. When that voice feels to you to be highly judgemental and negative, being overly critical of our decisions and efforts. Then that is the voice of the parent. The parent’s voice is the one we want to minimise as its heavy handed appraisal of us isn’t healthy or constructive.
The other voice is that of the friend, this one is understanding and encouraging of what we are doing. Very often we encounter roadblocks or setback in our lives, but what the voice of the friend says is similar to what our actually friends would say. If we try and fail, they will acknowledge our efforts while also telling us not to give and to continue with our endeavours.
Recently, a close friend of mine started to write a daily reflection of his conscious thoughts. I had of read through them and it was quite clear at which voice was speaking at each point. Line by line, each one could be attributed to one of the voices. As I outlined above, those that were more forgiving were easily traced back to that of the friend. While the lines where his thoughts were too harsh on himself, the parent was at play.
When that voice in your starts talking, try to ascertain which voice is speaking. If it is the parent’s voice, then distract yourself or allow the voice of the friend to take over. That last suggestion is difficult at first, but the more you do it, the easier it becomes.
Hope this helps, it sure has been a revelation for myself recently.
Thanks again to all my Hedites.
Posted on October 21, 2022 by Jordan Hedi Productions
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