Friends

Recently there have been a lot of temporary changes going on in my life and it has given me an opportunity to think about social connections with people. So, today I would like to share my thoughts.

For context, in Australia there is a federal election going on, this is our country’s highest form of government so it’s kind of a big deal. I’m a member of one of the two major parties and if you have paid attention throughout all my blog posts and videos you should know which one, but I’ll leave that for you to figure out.

What this has meant for me over the past two months, is weeknights filled with direct voter contact through making phone calls to members of the community. On the weekends, we hold street stalls and do doorknocking in the area, amongst other various activities for voter engagement. It’s a fairly time intensive experience, requiring me to volunteer for large stretches of time. I’m aware it’s my choice to do so but the commitment has meant I have had to shift my priorities for quite some time.

The good news is that there is only two more weeks to go until election day and once that is over; then my situation will return to a bit more of a normal schedule. However, I’ve also had university study as I’m about two thirds through this semester with just the last major assignment to go. When June 10th hits, then I’m relieved of that responsibility for a month or so before it starts back up for semester two of this year (that one is my final semester, yay).

With my free time away from work and daily life admin being a little on the short side recently. I’ve had to skip out on seeing close friends. Normally, I meet up with them on a Saturday evening but that hasn’t been possible considering all that’s going on. It’s not the end of the world as it will be possible to return once these temporary time sinks disappear.

What I have noticed as a result of my current situation is that social connection with friends is so important for us as individuals. I’ll admit I’ve never really been the type of person who tries to go out to make a million friends, I think quality is better than quantity in that department. But not seeing the ones that I do have, has me feeling a little empty. Maybe empty isn’t the right word for it but it’s like what’s the point of doing all that you do if you can’t smile alongside someone else?

That’s why, when I can see my friends once again. I’m going to try to do everything to make them laugh and to be the giver of good feelings.

So, I guess what I want you to remember is that, although we are all on our own individual journeys in life. Journeys that might keep us apart from those we deem close to us. It is vital that when the time comes, we reunite with them and ease each other’s burdens in life by just being present with ourselves and our friends. Since in life, you don’t ever really do anything by yourself.

Shout out to my Hedites who come back week after week to read and share with what we’ve got going on here. You are all wonderful people.

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 Posted on May 6, 2022 by

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Vices

I want to talk to you about vices as they are something that I have recently been grappling with, and I wanted to share my experiences from dealing with them.

For me the two major vices I have when it comes to substances would have to be soft drinks and the other would have to be nicotine. Both have different histories as to how I become involved with them:

Soft drinks were always something I very much enjoyed, starting in my youth. Maybe from the age of eight or so, it became an allowable thing for my parents to give me soft drinks. As the years went by I very much retained this love of soft drinks. But it was after high school when the habit got much worse. Seeing as I was at that point considered an adult, I could at any moment freely go out and buy bottles of the stuff. This increase in independence gave me the capacity to do what I wanted even if that wasn’t good for me. That is however, very much a common trait of that time in most people’s lives.

Luckily, I eventually wised up and realised that with new found independence also comes new responsibilities. I can’t honestly describe how much of a love I have for those sugary carbonated bottles, it’s something that has grown and matured over years. But as I’ve got older, I’ve accepted that I have a responsibility to look after myself (as in not developing Type II Diabetes in this case). So, I’d say since 2020 I’ve really tried to make an effort to cut them out completely. It’s interesting because I might be able to resist for a couple of months; but then the teasing allure gets to me and I buy one, that then starts a period of a couple weeks where I drink them again.

The great thing is that, even though I do have relapses at times. The stretches of time that I can go without have been increasing each time, while the relapse periods have gotten shorter. I’ve still got a long way to go, but each day that I don’t have one, I take as a small victory in my fight. I even have this thing where I fill up a bunch of plastic bottles with water then leave them in my freezer overnight. Then the next day I use them as an ice block to constantly have iced cold water throughout the day as opposed to soft drinks.

Nicotine, that’s the other major vice I have. I first started consuming nicotine when I finished high school, I had just started smoking weed and the group of friends I was with did a thing called ‘spinning’. What that essentially means is that you combine weed and tobacco together to increase in theory how much you have to smoke and improve how easy it is to light the weed. Because weed by itself can be difficult to burn.

So, for maybe 3 years after leaving high school I was smoking weed thinking that I was doing just that, smoking weed, but in reality I was also developing a penchant for nicotine due to the spinning. Some way down the line I got the great idea to stop smoking weed, so I did, but then I picked up smoking cigarettes as a way to cope with the withdrawals. But it wasn’t withdrawals from weed, it was from the nicotine; which I was then satisfying by smoking cigarettes. Whoops.

And let me tell you about the blend of tobacco I smoked. It’s a thing called Port Royal: Rum and Wine. I’m not sure if it’s only available in Australia but let me tell you it is amazing, so smooth with a tasteful thickness of flavour that really leaves you satisfied, until you need another… hahaha. Imagine the feeling of an old friend coming to visit, that’s what it feels like, if you didn’t think smoking was fun, you would after a Port Royal.

Now that I’m done gushing about that, my stint smoking cigarettes lasted about a year and a half, maybe two. Then I once again accepted that it was time to give it up, 2020 was the year where I gave it a real go. To my surprise, and I think due to how busy I was working on the COVID-19 response, I managed to go months without one. Another reason why I found it easier to give it up was that I never actually learned how to roll cigarettes. Port Royal only comes in a pouch, which meant I had to get a friend to do it for me. So, as long I didn’t ask him to roll there was no need to buy tobacco, because I didn’t know how to do it myself. Unfortunately, a new threat emerged on this front in the past year, vapes.

Vapes have been a way for me to get a nicotine hit without needing to have a friend roll a cigarette for me. They are readily available in my country even though they are supposedly banned, and with the range of different flavours available, it was hard not to get sucked in. I’m in the process now of purging that habit, it’s a similar situation to soft drinks, where I will go time without it, then relapse and at some point, quit again. It’s difficult but I know it is worth it in the long run. I always try to remind myself each day is victory if I can go without these vices.

One day I will fully overcome them, it’s just a matter of time.

Look I know that today might have seemed like I was talking all about me, but I wanted to give a brief run down of some of the bad habits I grapple with. Just wanted you to see that I’m not perfect by any means, but I’m trying to do things better. And most importantly, getting the idea that any day where you avoid doing your bad habits is worth treating as a victory (That doesn’t mean that you celebrate by doing some other kind of bad habit, but instead you praise yourself and your improving restraint and willpower).

Thanks like always to my Hedites, you’re the best.

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 Posted on April 29, 2022 by

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Self Authoring

Okay, it’s time once again for our weekly catch up on how we can improve aspects of our selves. This week I thought it would be good idea to talk about a technique we can use to make better sense of our day to day lives.

Now, seeing how you are viewing this on a digital device of some sort, that means that there are no costs preventing you from starting. I know it might sound pretty by the numbers but this technique, in many respects is just a form of journaling.

Essentially what you need to do is open up some program for taking down notes, in my experience I use Microsoft Word as it is the easiest and most common word processor. All you need to do, is at the end of day write up all that happened during the day, make sure to properly date each entry.

These can be minor events like the rude way someone served you when you bought your lunch or it could be something major like finding out a relative has injured themselves. Either is fine, it’s important to understand that no one else is going to see this so it can even include embarrassing things as well, like falling over as you tried to board the bus. All are welcome.

Being as descriptive and detailed as possible really helps when it comes to this technique, as it’s hard to understand the happenings of your day when you only have two sentences written down. Remember, this isn’t a chore or something you have to do just to cross off a to do list; it’s about conceptualising the events that have occurred over the past 24hrs and being able to map them out.

What’s the benefit of following this habit? Well, to take the example of the rude server at lunch, by writing it down you may realise that the event put you in a standoffish or pensive mood; and that might be why you were mean towards your coworker when you returned from lunch and they asked you about the progress on some project.

By understanding the events of our lives, we can better anticipate our behaviour and emotions. With that knowledge we can go about preparing to respond appropriately when similar events occur in the future.

This technique is different to the page of conscious thoughts that we should be writing each day, even though similar topics or themes may appear in both. The cause of this difference, is that the self authoring is about observing yourself from the perspective of your past, while the conscious thoughts is about where your mind is at in the present moment.

Hope this helps.

Like always, more to come, and thank you to all the Hedites that regularly come on down to this blog to pick up tools and ideas to better their lives. You are all awesome.

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The future of escapism

Howdy my Hedites, how’s your week been? I hope everything’s going in the right direction for you and those close to you. Today I feel a desire to talk about the worrying future of escapism.

I don’t know about you, but the whole idea about the metaverse scares me as a concept; terrifies me actually. It’s being advertised and promoted as a way to experience almost the entirety of the real world but instead in the virtual.

The fact that the technology and the platforms being built for this metaverse endeavour, are still very much in their infancy. Doesn’t fill me with too much confidence as growth in these types of areas, usually don’t have straight line increases but rather tend to have exponential gains.

Don’t get me wrong, escapism has always existed, I view social media as the most recent development down this path. So, much of this social media landscape is fake and really is just a whole game of fools fooling fools, just to get fooled themselves. However, before social media became the most frequented escape destination, there was the Television. The black screen, an omnipresent feature in the modern developed world. Even before Television, Radio was the media to; turn your brain off for a while (But I am talking about decades ago though).

To my understanding, we have become known as a species who wants to run away from reality. I understand why someone might feel that way, but what I also know is that the more you run away from the problems and issues in your life; the bigger and badder the consequences become, not just for you but all those people in your circle of influence. What has facilitated this increasing reliance on escapism in our societies? Well, all those technologies mentioned above do not operate in isolation of one another, but rather compliment one another, trapping people in a virtual net that some people never get out of.

Someone might say that, I’m using social media at this moment to connect with all of you, doesn’t that make that escapism? No, this channel and its content are about developing ourselves in the real world, so that we can become the most ideal versions of ourselves. When we are on that uplifting path, the lustful allure of the virtual world losses much of its appeal. I don’t know about you, but I’d much rather be happy and grateful in the real world than living out the insipid fantasies of the virtual.

To link back to the metaverse and what I’m terrified about. I feel in some capacity it might have some good uses; like any tool should. Then again, the past has shown us time and time again that people are drawn towards the shiny and new, just like a moth to a flame. This technology could have the potential to conveniently design and edit virtual environments and experiences that are specifically tailored for people to live out their personal fantasies. This in my mind would lead to at least a subpopulation of society feeling completely unfulfilled unless they are in the meta verse. I just hope it doesn’t get to the point where people spend most of their lives looking through a Virtual Reality headset.

Look my Hedites, I feel like I’m starting to ramble, so I’ll leave it there. This was more a piece about something that has been weighing on my mind recently. I’m sure you share some of my concerns or maybe you have some of your own, if that’s the case then comment down below, and don’t forgot to leave a like.

Thanks to you all!!!

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Guest on 100X Dudes Podcast

A little while back I mentioned that I appeared on the 100X Dudes podcast and can I say it was a pleasure. It was my first time on a podcast and I really enjoyed the experience. We cover a whole range of topics from self development and how I got interested in it, to politics as well as many others. Do give it a listen and go check out their other episodes as well, links below:

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Mission Statement

You smell that??? Smells like someone cooking up something good in the kitchen today. That someone would be me of course, because I want to share with you something I can’t believe I haven’t shared with you before. Whoops. However, it is a vital guiding force for everything we do in our lives. So, it’s time to learn about Mission Statements.

Now, if you work at a company or organisation of any sort, you may have come across that institution’s Mission Statement. Normally, these documents are pretty bland and uninspiring. They tend to follow along the lines of “We want to be world class for customer service and satisfaction” or “To become the number #1 innovating force in the market to drive structural changes in customer experience”.

When we read things like that, we tend to roll our eyes. I’m sure some executive has come back from a team building and management retreat; then come up with something like that and thought it’s going to inspire the employees. Not likely.

Although a mission statement for a organisation might be hard to pin down, due to the large number of people of different values and beliefs. When it comes to just you, it’s actually not that hard, and it actually carries weight. The reason for that is that we can shape the ideal person we want to be, and then strive towards becoming that. Think about it, that’s what a company’s Mission Statement is all about, it’s a written form of the ideal version or vision of the company and how it would operate. The same applies to you, having a Mission statement you truly believe in, charts an ideal course for your life that you just have to believe in going down.

For your homework, I want you to write down your own personal mission statement. What do you want to strive to be and do in life? What qualities or behaviours do you need to foster within yourself to reach those points? Why is it important that you move your life in that direction?

This Mission Statement is something you should read and reflect on, at least once a week. Thanks again to my Hedites for staying on this journey with me, please drop a like and a follow for the cause. Also, if you are struggling to come up with ideas for your mission statement, I’ve put mine down below.

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My Mission Statement:

I aspire to be a responsible individual who cares for the needs of others.

I believe it is my commitment to serve my fellow Australians, that will improve my own life in turn.

I want be an understanding son, a friendly brother, a supportive friend, a loving husband and a caring father.

I must constantly strive to increase my learning across a broad spectrum of topics, also, excel in what will bring my vison closer to reality.

Be vigilant in taking care of my health, spirit, body and mind.

Respond with courage when confronting my limits, and learn to adapt.

Accept that being met with failure is a part of life, but that doesn’t make me a loser, it makes me a future winner.

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 Posted on April 8, 2022 by

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Spaces

Hey there my Hedites, another week and we got another post to run through.

Today’s post is about something I spoken to you about before but I was reminded of its powerful effects this week. So, I felt that if I had forgotten something this important then it was necessary to bring it up with all of you.

It’s about the environment, or in other words, the spaces which you find yourself in. Over this working week I spent two days working from home while the other three I spent in the office. The difference in how I felt and how my overall level of motivation seemed to be directly linked to where I was on the day.

For instance, on the days that I was in at the office, I found myself far more concentrated on what I needed to get done and in turn I managed to action far more than usual. On the other hand, the days I worked from home I was far less productive and really struggled to put my mind onto the tasks that I needed to get done.

I think the reason for this is that the space I use for working from home is also the space I do many of my other personal life tasks. As in creative writing, university study, checking emails and creating this content. It is difficult to pin down which of those are responsible for my reduced work state but who knows it could be due to something I have forgotten to mention.

But the crux of the problem looks to be that when working from home my subconscious is distracted by things that it would rather be doing at that present moment. This saps me of the energy and focus to get my current work done.

In conclusion, from my own personal study I have seen how having multiple and diverse activities done in the same space makes it difficult to get any of them done. I would go further to say that with each separate task that you bring into a space, the more every activity suffers as a result. Take as an example, bringing your laptop into your gym/workout area; you’ll be tempted to check your emails or something along those lines and both your workout and email checking become less optimally performed.

The solution then presents itself quite easily in my mind. Only one task should be assigned to a certain space. Over the coming week I’m going to sit down and find spaces around my place that can serve as specific locations for specific tasks or activities. I think it would be worthwhile if you did the same.

Thanks again my Hedites.

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Revisiting

Howdy, this week’s post is inspired by a recent experience I had while revisiting some of my old work. The lesson is worthwhile even if you don’t have the same backlog of reference material as me. You can still do it regardless; it just will require you to think back through your past.

So, I was just about to write my one A4 page of conscious thoughts the other day when I stopped for a moment and started to look back at days’ past. That practice was actually something I think forgot to mention when I talked about the technique the first time.

Initially, I looked through the early pages of the current exercise book I’m writing in, but that didn’t go far enough back as that book started in the second half of last year. What I did was I busted out one of the old exercise books from a couple years back. What I found was amazing.

To start off with the basics, my hand writing had gotten so much better as it looked neater and I could fit more words on a page. But after skimming through a number of pages and jumping around from month to month I was shocked at the what was less obvious.

Firstly, some of the issues or problems that were on my mind at that point in time, now looking back, weren’t really that much of a problem or if anything were a good thing because they enabled me to grow.

Another matter was that my frame of reference was different. Early on, much of my writing was centred on myself, the things on my mind usually related solely to me. But now, I take a more inclusive view of things, I seem to be seeing things through the lens of not just myself but that of community. In the sense that, I’m not focused on just what’s good for me but what would be good for everyone. Don’t get me wrong, I still use my own personal frame as well but there is a shift away from “I” to “We”.

Similar to the first point, things that I thought were important or traits that I thought were valuable. Seem to hold less significance now. Almost as if the more I’ve grown and learned, the more my value structure has developed in tandem.

What I want you to do as an exercise is to go back through your tools such as your consciousness writing, daily to do lists, daily goals lists (there is a difference between goals and to-do lists, one is about tasks while the other is about ideal destinations), habit trackers, personal journals as well as any other tool you maintain. To find that shift or change in thinking.

Now, you might be thinking, “Wait I haven’t been doing any of those things” or “I haven’t been doing them long enough to see a noticeable change”. Well, even if you haven’t been doing them for ages, still give them a revisit as you might be able to notice minor changes or the initial seeds of change.

In the case having not done them, go find my blog posts and youtube videos on those techniques and make a start. On top of that, think back in your mind, maybe go back 5 years or so. And think about the problems you were facing, what did you think was important and what values did you think were desirable? Then compare that to what you think about those things now, maybe even write it down so you have a record of it.

Like always, thank you my Hedites, your support is always appreciated. I see every day more and more people engaging in the practice of bettering their lives for themselves and for others. I feel that our cooperative is really starting to gain some traction but we need to keep the good energy going. So, let’s start sharing the campaign online to get people talking.

I’m doing my part, how about you?

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 Posted on March 25, 2022 by

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Shifting Gears

I swear time is speeding up and slowing down at the same time, which seems impossible but we are almost a quarter way through 2022. In my mind it feels like it should be the end of January. Having said that, my days and in turn my weeks seem to be getting longer, not sure where I’m finding all this extra time. Weirdest sensation.

Enough about what’s going on in my head, let’s switch to what’s going on in yours. I thought it would be good to go back to sub-modalities and how we can use them to aid us. Sub-modalities, if you can’t remember, are the audio, visual and or other sensory features that make up everything we experience.

One of the brilliant things about our minds, is that it can play around and alter these sub-modalities for all sorts of purposes. Think of it like the post-production stage of a movie. Once all the film’s footage has been captured, it’s time for the editing team to add special effects, sound tracks/effects, cut unneeded scenes and so on. A reason why movie’s have this stage, is that certain editing choices can completely change the meaning of a scene or maybe the whole message of the movie itself.

So, those dynamic editing changes are what we want to learn for our own personal toolkit.

Let’s take a certain emotional state that most people say that they can’t get into, but would love to be in as much as possible. A confident state of being. Now, the process is fairly simple on paper, but it requires mental effort and a degree of charity for it to work.

  • First, think about a time when you were truly confident, a moment when you felt unstoppable, that everything you did just worked flawlessly.
  • Next, go deep into that experience, relive it in your mind, find one sub-modality that was present. It could be that, the sun was shining from behind so that it was beaming down on your neck, then go deeper, maybe the sun’s rays felt warm on your neck. So, at this point we’ve got the sun shining from behind making your neck warm. Note that down, then repeat the process but this time, start with a different sub-modality. Maybe there were birds chirping off the distance (You don’t always need to ask what other sensations the sub-modality made you feel, but it can’t hurt).
  • Repeat the above process as many times as you want, but 3 to 5 should be enough.
  • Now, once we have got our list of sub-modalities, it’s time to come up with an experience where we want to feel confident but in the past haven’t been. Or maybe you’re worried about that same experience from happening again because you think you won’t be confident. A perfect example is meeting new people. Everyone has had moments in their past where they felt nervous about meeting new people. Fear of that sticks with them, which cripples them emotionally when they do finally meet new people. This in turn adds to their list of negative experiences about meeting new people.
  • Let’s switch it up a notch. We need to instil the confidence from the first experience we examined into the negative one, the one that we want to affect change in. How do we do this? The sub-modalities!!! Take the list you came up with, relive the negative experience but add one of the confidence sub-modalities in. Don’t worry if it doesn’t make sense. For instance, how can the sun be shining on your neck when you met the person at the movie theatre? It doesn’t matter, just add it in.
  • You want to relive that negative experience as many times as needed to get the full list of confidence sub-modalities in. Upon reaching that point, crystallise that experience by repeatedly revisiting that negative moment in your life but with the new sub-modalities, do this as much as possible. That’s where the effort part comes in.

With a bit of elbow grease of the mind, you will be able to shift your attitude and beliefs around meeting new people. And remember, once you have that list of confidence sub-modalities, you can apply them to any other situation in which you want to feel confident. The beauty of this technique is that you can use any emotional state, confidence is a great start but what about feeling motivated or excited; you can do the same thing. In fact, this technique gets really crazy when you combine two lists of sub-modalities into a situation you want to change (ie. Using a Confidence list and an Excitement list in that meeting new people example).

One closing note, you can use this mental tool for future events too. So, if you are going on a blind date and meeting someone for the first time (Just running with that example again). You can imagine in your mind how that experience might look, but add the list of sub-modalities in to your visualisation to get that desired shift.

Shout out to my Hedites, I hope you give this technique a try. It really does make a big difference if you are willing to take the leap.

Like always, you are all wonderful people and I will be seeing you again soon

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 Posted on March 18, 2022 by

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March ’22 Release: Prisoner’s Peace

The March 2022 creative writing release is now available online and is titled Prisoner’s Peace. After finishing this work, I was really pleased with it how turned out. The story itself isn’t something I want to get into because I’m curious to see if my intended meaning is clear enough to readers. All I will say, is that it is a bit of a psychological short story set in the Medieval Dark Ages, centred around a prisoner’s daunting experience being sent to prison.    

What I found from writing this piece, is that I got re-experience the process of starting a project and not knowing exactly where it will end. Nevertheless, powering on with the writing and allowing the story to manifest itself to me naturally without me having to force it.

You can find it on Amazon’s ebook market and on Kobo’s as well.

Give it a read and tell me what you think.

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 Posted on March 16, 2022 by

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Rediscover the Why

Here we are back at it again like always, this week I want to talk about forgetting why we do things.

I’ve experienced this and maybe you have too, but sometimes I get these moments where I might be doing everything I need to be. That might include, exercising, reading, meditation and a whole routine of mindfulness activities. However, I feel like I’m just going through the motions.

That isn’t where we want to be. We have to regularly remember what all this is about. Why we do all these routines and tasks, which might seem inconsequential on the day we do them. But when taken out over a lifetime, can result in colossal outcomes for our lives and other’s.

What this feeling tells me, is that it is time for me to take a couple minutes out, just before I’m going to do a daily routine or task. And close my eyes and ask out loud why I am doing this? And why I’m excited about that?

So, in practice it might go something like this:

  1. I’m about to exercise, so I close my eyes and ask “why I am going to exercise?”
  • I reply “because it will mean I stay active and healthy”
  • Then I ask “why does staying active and healthy make me excited”
  • The answer would be that it will help me to live a fuller life especially when I’m older…

Now, you can try that process for anything really, but you definitely would what to do it for your daily routine items, because those are the vital things that we need done. So, it’s best that we derive purpose out of daily actions. Also, you don’t have to limit yourself to one reason either, you can have as many as you like.

The second question uses the word “excited” for a very particular reason. That being, we might be struggling to see the point of our daily routines when we have done them for a very long time or when we are in the early stages of starting a new habit. This can result in us slowly dropping them, which is not ideal for anyone. So, the excitement part is meant to be that jolt of electricity that reawakens your passion for your routines.

Understanding why we do something, and why we should be excited about it, is a sure fire way to achieve elevated performance in your life. Losing sight of these two why’s is a normal human thing to happen, but rediscovering those why’s is what makes people legendary.

The reason why I wrote this post is that recently I experienced the same thing. A lot of routines were running on autopilot as I had been doing them for years now. I reflected and came to the realisation I wasn’t getting the same feeling out of these routines, when compared to when I first started to implement them. Going back to the roots, really helped me to shift my perspective back to where it needed to be on these matters.

I hope this kind of thinking helped you.

Shout out to all the Hedites for liking and sharing these posts, it means a lot and you all have my deepest thanks. And if you haven’t liked or shared before, get wild and do it on this one, who knows you might like the feeling.

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 Posted on March 11, 2022 by

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Help Not Found

Okay, bit of a short post today. This thought came to me after being made privy to a certain bit of information about someone I know.

Sometimes people you know may change in various and unexpected ways. Ways, that might not always be healthy for them or others. But to a certain extent we have to acknowledge that it isn’t always our place or within our capabilities to help that person.

Essentially, some unsettling information came to light about someone I know and it’s one of those situations where I and others just have to let it play out. That’s not an easy thing to accept, especially since human beings like to feel in control or able to affect change. Unfortunately, some things are out of our depths, at least mine in this case.

I’m not sure if I’ll ever see that friend I know in the future and if I do, will I even be able to recognise them? It’s hard to say. But I will have to find solace either way.

I guess the message I’m getting to is, not everything is in your power to change. The domain you have the most control over is yourself and your own actions. So, that means in some instances the best we can be is an example of how to conduct life affairs.

Sorry about the more of a downer post this week, I won’t go into the personal details because that’s unfair. But these type of thoughts have been playing in my head all week.

Once again, Thank you to everyone for all your support, it means a lot.

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